How to Make the Journey from Panic to Emotional Self-Acceptance
By Clo Nickel
Key Themes: anxiety, self-help, empowerment, emotions
Anxiety’s Inner Voice describes how each reader can, like the author, make the journey from panic to emotional self-acceptance. A book for women, written by a woman who has gone through the experience, this life-changing book offers more than self-help. It focuses on a gentle self-acceptance.
While conventional treatments for anxiety rely on changing the way you think, this books core message is one of emotional healing. Instead of suppressing or pushing away their feelings, the reader will be shown that emotions are something that they can embrace and learn from in order to achieve lasting peace. More importantly, women will learn how to use their anxiety as an emotional compass to not only heal their particular anxieties, but to thrive in all areas of their lives.
About the Author
Clo Nickel is currently pursuing a degree in Psychology and works part-time as a Microbiology Lab Analyst. She enjoys travelling and has just returned home from a trip to Thailand. She lives in beautiful British Colombia, Canada with her husband/soul mate and their two wonderful kids.
Clo also enjoys the creative arts and has started a yoga-inspired jewelry line called Inner Voice Beads. She hopes both her book and her jewelry will help women remember the importance of listening to their own inner voice.
In Anxiety’s Inner Voice I share with you my story of healing. I write about the painful experiences I went through dealing with a ten-year battle with panic disorder, the search for answers, and the lessons learned.
With a sensitivity found only by someone who has walked a similar path, this book takes great care to provide a very gentle and loving approach towards dealing with the problems that women living with anxiety and panic encounter.
Part I begins with my personal story and is intended to prompt other women to examine where in their own lives they may have given up their personal power, or have had it taken away. Since interpersonal relationships are so important to women, my story can serve as an example of what often happens when those intimate relationships are lacking.
Part II and Part III explain the skills that I learned in my recovery, skills which not only enabled me to manage my symptoms, but led me to build a life based on truth and inner contentment. Each chapter in these sections breaks down this process, inviting the reader to find their own solutions through exercises and self-reflection.
Since panic attacks are so distressing, how to deal with them is of primary concern and written about at the beginning of Part II. During my recovery, I found it vitally important to utilize healthy, reassuring thoughts rather than anxious, fearful ones. With that in mind, I have taken considerable care to provide many examples of specific thoughts designed to effectively deal with panic attacks.
Worry is another behavior often experienced by people with anxiety. In Chapter Seven, there are suggestions and worksheets designed to help find more realistic alternatives to worrying, and put a stop to the automatic tendency to indulge in catastrophic thinking. Following that, Part II then explores the connection between early experiences and the resulting core beliefs.
Most of these exercises in Part II are based on cognitive therapy, which is built on the premise that it is not external events that cause our anxiety, but rather it is our thoughts or perceptions about these events that actually cause us to become distressed. The idea then is that to change your thinking ─ is to change your response to stressful situations. These practical exercises are guides for this work, and enable those who suffer from anxiety to make some important cognitive shifts.
Even though cognitive therapy has its place and is often extremely effective in managing symptoms of anxiety, this book goes one step further in Part III and incorporates emotional healing.
In my recovery I had found that since anxiety is an emotional disorder, to just work on my thoughts didn’t seem to be getting to the heart of the disorder which for me consisted of unexpressed emotions. Instead of finding this information in books about anxiety disorders, I had to search elsewhere for ways to cope and learn other ways to deal with my negative feelings. Out of that research, I would like to share the different ways I found which honour and deal with all our emotions in a more healthy way ─ a way to integrate all the parts of ourselves. It is a way that gives us permission to regain the right to be a fully feeling, fully functioning whole person.
Finally, this book touches on spirituality, not a religious type of spirituality but one that prompts us to think about our soul’s desires, to learn about our inner guidance, and one that shows us how to let our intuition guide us by becoming emotionally aware.
How you read or use this book is essentially up to you. If you have anxiety without panic attacks, you may want to skip the chapter on panic attacks. If you’re not overly concerned with what other people think of you, you may want to skip that chapter.
Since this book has three distinctly different parts, you may choose to work on Part II first, and not be called to do the deeper work of Part III until the skills in Part II have become ingrained.
This book is not intended to replace medical advice or therapy, but in Anxiety’s Inner Voice I share what worked for me and what didn’t. Through the telling of my challenges, I am convinced that other women, whose stories may be very different from my own, will be able to benefit from the insight of another woman’s struggle. However, insight alone rarely turns out to cure suffering, and for that reason practical exercises are included in this book and give the reader additional tools to work with.
I don’t know how anyone could live through an anxiety disorder and not have it profoundly affect how they manage the rest of their lives. But for me, I’ve come to a place of acceptance about the role anxiety plays in my life, where once I felt anxious and scared to death of having a panic attack almost every day, to the present, where anxiety barely registers any fearful feelings in me at all.
Now in my mid-thirties, for the most part I have a sense of peace towards the emotions that have the potential to disrupt my wellbeing. The very emotions that once sent me into a tailspin of fear and despair are now met with a certain amount of acceptance. Although my life is not without its stresses, raising two children and working, I have a sense of serenity that I’ve never had before. I once thought that I was the only person who could never get over an anxiety disorder. My symptoms were too severe, I was too messed up. I truly believe if I can live a life free from the burden of anxiety, anyone can.
This product was added to our catalog on Wednesday 16 December, 2009.